oils and emotions

I’ve been using oils for almost 2 years now. I originally purchased my Premium Starter Kit for two reasons: to support my friend’s small business and (if they happened to work) for emotional and focus support for my husband and son. Little did I know how much they would end up benefiting me emotionally. #thanksGod

The years leading up to the purchase of my starter kit were riddled with grief and trauma unlike anything I had ever experienced. So much unexpected loss: my brother, my mom, my stepdad, my father in-law, my grandmother, my daughter leaving the nest, the collapse of my marriage which led to divorce etc. During that time, I did the only thing I knew to do, I suppressed it, put on a happy face and continued on. As with anyone, over time that emotional toll would prove detrimental to my health.

3 of my guardian angels: my stepdad bob, my mama, and my brother jerry

God created us to be physical, spiritual and emotional beings. Our emotional health is directly related to our physical health. Those three solid years of grief and turmoil, culminated in me being admitted to the hospital with a heart episode. I was diagnosed with atrial fibrillation, and my doctors were concerned I would either have a heart attack, a stroke, or both. Once my heart was back into rhythm, the prescription was to “simply” reduce the stress. Simple, except for the fact that not one of the stressors that caused my diagnosis were circumstances within my control. Granted, changes needed to happen.

I knew there were areas in life I couldn’t control so I decided to focus on areas I could control: working out, eating right, more quiet time with God, taking my vitamins and supplements etc. So many of us focus solely on the physical – we make resolutions to work out, eat right, and take supplements. A lot of people aren’t able to stick with anything because we hit a plateau. And what I see over and over and over again is there are underlying reasons that cause us to hit these brick walls. If we can’t get to the root cause, we can’t break through those plateaus. Those underlying reasons and root causes are usually suppressed emotions. (Remember when I said our emotional health has everything to do with our physical health?).

Our bodies are made in such a way that our thoughts, feelings, and every part of us moves in two directions. We are either moving towards the light or the darkness, the positive or the negative, life or death.

We even see this in Scripture:

A tranquil heart is life to the body, but jealousy is rottenness to the bones.

Proverbs 14:30

A joyful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit dries up the bones.

Proverbs 17:22

We also see it throughout Psalms, so many verses point to emotional health directly intertwined with our physical health.

So often we want to control how we respond to trauma. I’m certainly guilty of that. All too often I’ve felt the need to put others ahead of myself; to be strong for other people. I’ve put on a happy, cheerful face in order to hide my inner turmoil. That, my friends, is what we call suppression. It’s unhealthy and it eventually takes a toll on your body. We must work through our emotions; we have to dig deep. We have to process it, we have to work through it. You can’t “fake it ’til you make it” when it comes to your emotions y’all. Trust me on this.

Most think of trauma as death, an early death, a tragic death, childhood abuse, domestic abuse, a horrific accident, neediness in your childhood. Trauma actually happens every single day of our lives in varying degrees. Trauma can be anything, any situation where in that exact moment, at that given time,  we don’t feel equipped to handle the situation. According to my brain and my body, at that given time I didn’t have what I needed to handle the situation.

We have two choices when it comes to trauma and suffering: we can 1) stuff it down and repress it, or 2) acknowledge it, process, grieve, heal,  and move on.

I am a firm believer in the power of prayer, mediation, counseling, therapy etc. Without these proper tools, we can’t process the trauma. We also have tools in these essential oils. The oils will equip us to be able to handle future situations.

Now let’s get into a little bit of the science behind oils and emotions. You know how a smell can transport you to another time and place? Maybe the smell of apple pie reminds you of your grandmother. I know it’s weird but the smell of garlic or the smell of an outdoor grill takes me back to our lake house as a child with my dad, the smell of my coat closet smells like my mama. My daughter, Presley, has a drawer in her new house that takes her back to when she would visit her uncle’s house as a child.

Let’s dive a little deeper. Emotions, like fear and love, are carried out by the limbic system, which is located in the temporal lobe. While the limbic system is made up of multiple parts of the brain, the center of emotional processing is the amygdala, which receives input from other brain functions, like memory and attention. Smells access the limbic system. When you smell something familiar, it has the power to trigger a memory of a person or a place. So the apple pie, the smell of the grill, the coat closet, the drawer… those all trigger memories and emotions.

The amygdala gland in the limbic system is where we store and release trauma. The amygdala doesn’t respond to sight or touch, only smell. It only releases trauma though our sense of smell. Fascinating, right?!

This is where essential oils come in. You might not think you are familiar with essential oils but they are all around us, all day, every day. Some more familiar oils are olive oil, corn oil, peanut oil, vegetable oil. Oils have different amounts of molecules called sesquiterpenes. Sesquiterpene molecules deliver oxygen molecules to cells, like hemoglobin does in the blood. Sesquiterpenes are so exponentially minuscule that they have the ability to carry oxygen across the blood brain barrier (we call it a barrier but it’s actually more like a sieve). The more sesquiterpenes in an oil, the more oxygen that is allowed through the sieve. Essential oils have much higher amounts of sesquiterpenes than oils like corn, olive, vegetable etc.

Think about it this way, if you open a bottle of olive oil in the kitchen, do you think a person in the next room will be able to detect it? No… it has a very low sesquiterpene level. But what if you opened a bottle of peppermint essential oil in the kitchen? Pretty quickly, those sesquiterpenes will carry that aroma of the peppermint to the person in the other room. Sesquiterpenes increase oxygen flow to the limbic system which unlocks the DNA and allows the release of emotional baggage and trauma.

I’ve been doing a lot of research on oils and emotions, and one my favorite books is Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils. This book will tell you the way emotions are stored in your body, how emotions work, how trauma works, how to clear those patterns; it’s a great resource. You can look up each emotion, find the opposite emotion, find the oil to release that emotion and a chart showing you where to use the oils. Emotions are stored all over our body, in glands and organs. With essential oils we have tools we need to help process trauma.

Now let’s look at a few oils and what emotions they are best suited to support. Think of this as the mood ring of diffusing. You can also wear these oils topically, neat or diluted, in a roller bottle.

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Starting with the oils found in our Premium Starter Kit:

Frankincense – emotionally, spiritually grounding, peace. I love reading my Bible while diffusing Frankincense + Peppermint.

Stress Away – worry, stress. This is my go to and one that has truly been life changing for me with regards to stress and how my body responds to stress.

Lavender – spa like calm, peace. Think of all the spas that diffuse Lavender… it is so peaceful and calming.

Valor – timid, doubtful, worry, courage, bravery, great for kids. My kids and I use this oil often. I use it before stepping into a work meeting, before speaking publicly, or even going into an uncomfortable situation. My kids use it for school (before tests, before performances or speeches), they’ll use Valor before their various sport practices and games.

Citrus oils – Lemon , Citrus Fresh – down, feeling blue, mood lifting, nervous feelings, positive outlook. I love diffusing citrus oils, they have such a cheery aroma, they seem to brighten any mood!

Peace and Calming – chaotic, agitated, fear, instills confidence. I will diffuse Peace and Calming with Cedarwood before I get in bed. My youngest loves to diffuse Peace and Calming with Sleepyize at bedtime. Ever heard of the “witching hour”? This is a go to oil to diffuse or use topically to create a sense of calm in the house.

Now for oils outside of the Premium Starter Kit:

Feelings Kit

  • Harmony
    Place a drop of Harmony on your left palm, rub your palms together, inhaling the oil blend and place some Harmony just below your sternum, and above your belly button. As you inhale the aroma you can meditate, pray, be still, or say affirmations.
    + Apply several drops (2-4) on ears, throat, spine, wrists, neck, thymus or feet
    + Apply to chakras/vitaflex points
    + Directly inhale
    + Diffuse.
  • Forgiveness
    Create a relaxing and grounding space to process emotions and cultivate relationships with this blend, featuring oils such as Melissa, Lavender, Frankincense, and Royal Hawaiian Sandalwood.
    + Apply Forgiveness to the navel in a clockwise motion while thinking of any situation that needs to be forgiven.. anyone you may be angry with.. or who has hurt you in the past – including yourself!
  • Inner Child
    Support your efforts to find and stay true to your authentic self with the warm, sweet aroma of oils such as Orange, Black Spruce, Lemongrass, and Royal Hawaiian Sandalwood.
    + apply several drops (2-4) to wrists, edge of ears, navel, neck and feet (pairs well with SARA.)
    + add several drops (2-4) to bath water
    + directly inhale, or
    + diffuse (amazing with a citrus oil!)
    + can also be used as a perfume
  • Present Time
    Present Time helps to support the mind, body & soul to stay in the moment, it is calming to the mind, can ease stress and prompts forgiveness towards others and self.
    + Place 2-3 drops in the palms of your hand, close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and say your affirmations
    + Apply several drops (2-4) to wrists, edge of ears, neck and feet
    + Add several drops (2-4) to bath water
    + Apply to chakra/vitaflex points, particularly the heart and third-eye
    + Directly inhale, diffuse, or dilute 1:15 with vegetable oil for body massage
  • Release
    There are oil blends in Release that may combat anger & negative emotions, restore confidence, bring about emotional balance, calm the mind, and uplift the mood!!
    + Massage on drop over the liver. As the liver holds onto emotions that we may not even realize are still lingering. This helps to naturally release those feelings in the body.
    + Apply several drops (2-4) to wrists, edge of ears, neck and feet
    + Add several drops (2-4) to bath water
    + Apply to vitaflex points
    + Directly inhale
    + Diffuse
  • Valor
    This is our bravery oil. 
    Our courage oil.
    Our oil for empowerment. Apply a few drops in the palm of your left hand, gently rub your palms together, bring your oiled palms to your nose and inhale. Set your intention for the day now. Next, put some Valor on the back of your neck and then place another drop on the inside of your wrists and hold your wrist together for a moment. As you hold the pulse points of your wrists together, again breathe in the oil blend and take a moment to be still while affirming your intentions for the day. What do you want to accomplish today?

Joy – positive outlook, disappointed, burdened.
Place a drop of Joy into your left palm, rub your hands together, and slowly inhale the scent. Then place your hands on your heart. If you are looking to become more open-hearted, use these moments to focus on that.

White Angelica – worry.
Place a drop of White Angelica in your left palm, rub your palms together and deeply inhale. Then gently brush your palms over the crown of your head, down your neck, shoulders, chest, torso, and all the way down your legs to your feet. You can, again, revisit your intention for your day.

Sacred Mountain + Patchouli
This is a combination I just stumbled upon one day #thanksgod I diffused it and was B L O W N A W A Y! I now carry it in my diffuser necklace, handmade by Lizzi at https://roadkillgems.com/ I roll it over my the nape of my neck and on both wrists.

Something else to seriously consider is how your hormones can significantly affect your emotions. Our hormones are controlled by the endocrine system and affect our entire body. There are three books I highly recommend for learning more about balancing hormones with essential oils: Taming the Dragon Within , Lucy Libido and Inner Transformations Using Essential Oils

Progessence Plus
This blend is sure to become your new favorite oil if it isn’t already! It contains naturally occurring progesterone from wild yams and combines it with vitamin E and an essential oil serum to easily penetrate the skin. It has a warm, slightly floral scent and is best used on a consistent daily basis.
+ Apply 2-4 drops on the wrists or neck daily.

Clary Sage/Sclaressece
Clary Sage: This gorgeous oil is not only wonderful for at bedtime but is great for balancing hormones. It is both grounding and comforting. Diffuse this with Orange and Patchouli for max relaxation and emotional support on the worst days! SclarEssence supports normal glandular functions and can be helpful in supporting women’s health and hormonal health. Make a roller and roll it on your ankles every single night!

Our endocrine system is extremely important. Support it well and you might find yourself feeling like a whole new person. I have a roller on mine and roll over my thyroid daily. Your endocrine system decides how you feel. If your hormones work correctly, if you have energy, if you have a whole lot of things that make life much more full. So it seems pretty important to give them what they need! Use this blend faithfully and watch the results!

Oils are not a quick fix and I say this all the time, “Consistency is key when using oils.”

Our team offers free online classes at least once per week in our private Facebook group. If you are new to essential oils reach out to me here and let’s get you into one of our classes or we can connect privately. If you’re ready to dive in with us click here to get started.

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AcceptanceSARA, Aroma Life, Lavender, Endoflex, Acceptance, Humility,

Confidence – 
Joy, CypressFennelGrapefruitJasmineOrangePine, Transformation, Blue Tansy, Thyme

Productivity – LemonLavenderPeppermintRosemary, Citrus Fresh, Motivation, Envision, En-R-Gee, Magnify Your Purpose, Lemon Myrtle, Spearmint

Peace – Roman ChamomileFrankincenseJuniperTranquilPeace and Calming, Sacred Mountain, Valor, White Angelica, RutaVaLa, Trauma Life, Jade Lemon, Acceptance

Happiness – JoyOrangeCinnamon BarkLemonGeranium, Sage, Bergamot

Positivity – BasilLemonGrapefruitFrankincenseGeranium, Sacred Mountain

Take your time and try various oils. What might work for one person might not work for another.

Have a blessed day, friends!

xo, Mona

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